When it comes to your children, you never know if romance might rocket them into love early, and perhaps often, or if there will be a wait for that “special” one.
We have many kids, and thus many memories of early romance, but I take the case of number two son, Spencer who, at 21, had never had a date in his life. Now part of this was due to his own shyness, and part to number three son Sam who, at 16, declared that he had formed the “Don’t Date Till You’re 80 Club.” Number two and number four sons (never having had a date at the time) eagerly joined. Number one son happened to have already had a date, so demurred.
Suspicion was aroused when number one spotted a sartorial discrepancy in number two’s appearance one day at the dinner table, just before the latter was about to go out with “his buddies” for the evening.
“Hey, Spence. What the heck?” he demanded.
“Huh?” Number one looked suspiciously at his brother and said, “You popped your collar.”
It was the blush of red that spread across an otherwise deadpan face that gave poor old Spencer away. Well, that and the collar. Since poor old Spencer rarely wore a collar, fancying either sweats or tee shirts, a collar that was “popped” at the time apparently indicated that one was actually aware of style — something that in the case of number two son, surprised us all. The truth was out and so was he — out for a date and out of The Club. The fact that he wasn’t also tossed out on his ear after his first date is surprising, considering how it ended.
According to his date, after taking her to a movie on that first evening and driving her home, he became very nervous, and more so when he parked the car. Mindful that he should actually do something, he awkwardly got out of the car and, looking down, noticed a penny. He picked it up, tossed it to her and said, “Well, here’s your tip.” She caught it, looked at it, looked at him baffled, then thanked him and left.
She may not have felt it, but he sure was smitten. They were married a year later. Marrying the first person you’ve ever dated is apparently an anomaly. I looked it up. One website actually gave 12 reasons you shouldn’t. I did find another site that lauded the decision to marry that First One. It didn’t give 12 reasons to support its argument though. But then love is not a debate, giving points for persuasive arguments. Love is being transformed into an oyster — your brain becomes mushy and before you know it, you’ve been consumed. May that happen to you this Valentine’s Day for the first time, and if it already has, then celebrate with oysters at dinner.
Faye Lippitt is the author of “16 Chickens on a Trampoline” and the children’s book, “The Great Caribbean Chicken Caper.”